Hi
Am a 25 years old lady and an entrepreneur, in a 3 years relationship with this guy who is gainfully employed. Before we officially started dating, I kept in touch with my ex boyfriend whom I used to run back to for sex, of which I stopped immediately when my new guy came into the picture.
Sadly on my part my new bf saw messages of our dirty chats the very first time we got official and it became a very big issue. But we spoke about it and started things afresh.
Things were going on well and smooth, we go places together, we talk or text each other, on daily basis until I don’t know how and why our problems started.
This guy is a degree holder but unfortunately on my side, I had to quit nursing sch first year after my daddy’s death so I can start my own business. And I must say this guy doesn’t wait to tell me to get educated on any little quarrel that comes up.
When we are having conversations, I have to choose my words wisely and correctly so that it doesn’t turn into a quarrel, this guy is too serious that when cracking a joke , I have to think about it really well so i wouldn’t get him angered.
You see that kind of friendship people create with their partners that make them laugh and crack jokes about each other isn’t found in this particular relationship. Communication between us became a very big issue. We quarrel and breakup for weeks or months then later get back together again.
Not one not twice but this happens again and again. I never cheated on him and I am not that kind of lady who is demanding or ask of favors from their partners as I believe it’s my partners responsibility to support out of their own will, I pay my own bills but this guy have never asked how or given me a dime or any financial support in our 3 years relationship, Neither has he asked about my business. I must say I am doing extremely well in my business. I respect, love and make myself available to him anytime in spite of all but I get less of his attention and communication.
I tried talking to him about it on different occasions but it he makes it seem am too demanding for his attention and blah blah blah. The sad part is that he expects me to be single anytime he is back from our quarrel “break”.
We later on sat and spoke about our relationship and making it work. I must say it started well but due to the nature of my business, which takes more of my weekends most of the time, and so few dates he set for us couldn’t come on cos I had to go to work.
During this passed valentine day, i promised to call after my business appointments but I forgot cos my business took the best part of the day so i called numerous times late in the afternoon and he refused to pick up only to later accuse me of going out with my “sugar daddy” who’s been sponsoring my lifestyle. In fact I couldn’t stand being an option to him so We had to call the relationship off.
Things got so bad between us and worse still in as much as I had stopped running to my ex for sex I recently bumped into him in town and before I knew it he had already taken me to his house and our sex stories seem to have been reignited. My boyfriend and I again seem to have made things right between us but somewhat I just can’t say no to my Ex’s sexual advancements in as much as he has moved on and has another chic. To make matters even more terribly there is this friend of mine at work that I had rarely been taking note in but again he seems to be having all the time for me and has been so nice to me all along I feel like I owe him my love.
Honestly I really do love my boyfriend but am scared of putting all my hopes on him and he turns out to leave for another woman later, and am scared of leaving this new guy too cos he’s really caring and almost everything opposite my bf. Yet to add more trouble to the mix I still can’t stop the desire to rush to my ex for some little sessions and I just don’t know how nasty this might end.
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