MC Fullstop’s Son Andy Deh Sparks Outrage Over Claims Women Respect Men Who Can Slap Them
Andy Deh, the son of late reggae entertainer MC Fullstop, has sparked debate on social media after making controversial remarks about women and physical violence in relationships.
Andy attracted attention after claiming that a woman cannot respect a man who is unable to slap her.
In his remarks, he said, “Hakuna vile dem atakurespect na anajua huwezi mpiga kibare.”
His statement loosely translates to, “There is no way a woman will respect you when she knows you cannot beat her.”
Outrage Online
The comments have raised questions among social media users, especially at a time when Kenyans are discussing violence against women following the allegations involving digital creator Nihan and her boyfriend, Flossin.
Many have criticised Andy’s remarks, arguing that respect in a relationship is earned through mutual understanding, communication and trust — not through violence or the threat of it.
The Importance of Respect in Relationships
The discussion surrounding Andy’s remarks has brought attention to how people understand respect in romantic relationships.
While couples may disagree from time to time, physical violence should never be seen as a way of solving problems or correcting a partner.
Respect is built through communication, trust and mutual understanding. Violence, or the threat of it, is not a foundation for a healthy relationship.
A Dangerous Message
Comments like Andy’s risk normalising gender-based violence at a time when Kenya is grappling with rising cases of abuse against women. According to the Kenya Demographic and Health Survey, nearly half of women aged 15-49 have experienced physical violence at some point in their lives.
Advocates have consistently argued that violence in relationships is never justified and that respect cannot be coerced.
Where to Get Help
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, help is available. Contact the Kenya Police at 999 or 112, or reach out to organisations such as the Federation of Women Lawyers (FIDA Kenya) or the Gender Violence Recovery Centre (GVRC) at Nairobi Women’s Hospital for support.